Presenter: Dr. Deborah Gilman
Program Description: Resistance to change comes up in our work often. As clients discover they must make changes avoidance, resistance, defensiveness or confrontation can occur. Recognizing resistant behavior and underlying motivations helps to identify best approaches to responding to unwilling clients. The reasons may not be clear to us or to the client, but they exist. Ignoring them gets us nowhere. Rolling with resistance effectively creates cooperation between professionals and clients for eliciting change.
Resistance is a legitimate concern for us professional because it is predictive of poor outcomes and lack of involvement in the divorce process. Resistance actually offers us an opportunity to respond in a new, perhaps surprising way, and to take advantage of the situation without being confrontational.
This webinar will teach us strategies to adapt or “roll with” resistance including: (1) Siding with the Negative; (2) Reframing; (3) Developing Discrepancy; (4) Agreement with a Twist; (5) Shifting Focus; (6) Types of reflection.
- Increase knowledge of barriers to change and us of motivational strategies to prevent resistance.
- Increase awareness of underlying resistance and identify at least 4 strategies you can use to respond to resistance in divorce meetings to enhance process efficacy.
- Increase knowledge and be able to apply at least 4 skills aimed at reducing resistance and eliciting change in clients during the divorce process.
Dr. Deborah Gilman
Dr. Deborah Gilman is a Pennsylvania Licensed Psychologist and owner/founder of Fox Chapel Premier Psychological Services, a boutique private psychological practice in Fox Chapel, PA. Dr. Gilman is a native of Pittsburgh. She obtained her Bachelor of Science degree at Carnegie Mellon University, graduating with honors. She then pursued her passion for clinical psychology at Tulane University in New Orleans, LA where she obtained her Master of Science (M.S.) and Doctor of Philosophy (Ph.D.) with a specialization in pediatric psychology. Dr. Gilman completed a prestigious residency at Johns Hopkins Medical School/The Kennedy Krieger Institute followed by a three-year fellowship at Nationwide Children’s Hospital/Ohio State University where she specialized in interventions to ameliorate the effects of child and family trauma. As a certified trauma professional, Dr. Gilman has seen the devastating emotional impact high conflict litigated divorce can have on families, which prompted her to look for processes that promote an amicable and healing environment for families going through divorce. Dr. Gilman is a trained Mediator in PA and trained Coach/Child Specialist in Collaborative Law. On the collaborative team, she serves as a neutral mental health coach and neutral child specialist. She is an active member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP), she is the President of the Collaborative Law Association of Southwestern Pennsylvania (CLASP), participates in the local mediation council in Pittsburgh, PA, and is active as a speaker and presenter nationally and internationally. Dr. Gilman is passionate about keeping families out of court and supporting each family’s unique needs during the divorce process and beyond.